When you have to wait a long time on your first business appointment, you sometimes suspect what time it is. Here one has an issue with time. And if you are sharply corrected for a certain choice of words at the first meeting, chances are that spontaneity is under pressure here. Or if you notice that you are on the alert in the first interaction and you are defensive, safety can prove to be an important topic here. Whose theme this precisely is, is still the question.
So the first contact is often a nice diagnostic tool for the themes that a person, a team, an organization or just you yourself struggle with. By examining this with open questions in a respectful way, an interesting dialogue can arise about what lies underneath. You use your own observations in the first contact as a diagnostic tool for any underlying themes. Of course it is important that you already know your own motives and patterns so that you can already ‘filter them’ out of this first observation. If you have an issue of trust yourself, there is a risk that you will recognize this with every new client or partner. And you can, of course, just be incredibly wrong. How that is subsequently responded to, often speaks volumes again.