Although we often make things appear differently, our brain consists of not one but three brains: the cognitive, the emotional and the instinctive brain. Our cognitive brain has only recently developed in evolution. However, it behaves like a dominant owner who thinks he knows everything better. As a result, the wisdom of our other brains is rather neglected.
The emotional brain, with the well-known emotions scared, angry, happy and sad, can be heard the most. Preferably at inappropriate times. Rationally, our emotions can disrupt things a lot. We therefore prefer to keep the emotional brain under control. By counting to 10. We then prefer to deny our deeper instincts for fleeing, fighting or freezing. With which we also deny the wisdom of our instinctive brain or also reptile brain.
According to the classical (rational) view, we first think of something, then perhaps we feel something about it, and then we link an action to it. We thus forget to use a substantial part of our brain capacity. A more integrated deployment of our brain takes us further. By learning to listen more to our instincts, then to our emotions and then to attach a cognitive conclusion to it. In the order that evolution has also developed our brains.